Defining limitations…..

Today tasted like chocolate ice cream with rainbow sprinkles and raspberry juice squirted on the top.   When BB had her operation and was fastened into cast for three long months part of my world turned grey.  I could only see what she couldn’t do, I saw water that she couldn’t swim in, I saw parks she couldn’t play in, I saw a life defined by her limitations and it broke my heart ever so slightly.

Today I saw the world in a different light, I saw a world defined by a little girl, by a non toddling toddler.  I saw a girl who doesn’t see limitations but only a sea of possibilities that she can dive into and explore.  I saw a little girl who doesn’t count the days as they pass by until her legs are her own again but instead lives each day as it comes clutching at new ways to play regardless of what binds her legs.

I saw happiness and it nestled in my arms flying down an astroslide.  I heard laughter as she hugged her arms around me and commanded my every move by a point of her finger.  I listened to strange snorting noises emerge from her nose as  we saw real life, lovely fat pigs up close and personal for the first time.  I saw a child who wanted to swing high in the air and found a way to do it.

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I saw a child who can’t walk begin to learn to crawl.

Today I was the child and my beautiful baby the teacher.

You define your own limitations in this life…

72 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Sally
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 18:45:38

    Oh, that is properly, properly lovely. What a little star!


  2. Inside the Wendy House
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 18:50:46

    Beautiful post. Children continually humble us 🙂 xxx


  3. The Mad House
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:01:06

    Oh Jane, between BB and Erin, I have really had my eyes opened and what amazing little girls. They certainly do humble us all


  4. mothersalwaysright
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:10:22

    Absolutely gorgeous. That girl melts my heart every time I see her. I love her determination. She’s going to go far in life with that attitude! x (the kiss is for BB, by the way).


  5. ecbradley
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:17:24

    Oh my, the fun they are going to have on Monday! These girls rock!


  6. Michelle @ Simplify, Live, Love
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:25:39

    You are so right – we do define our own limitations. My daughter amazed me every day in her spica – first she learned to crawl, then climb, then stand unassisted IN HER CAST. If she had worn it much longer, she would have been walking in spica, I know. And now she’s walking again in her brace and on her own when she’s allowed out. Lovely post! Watch out – nothing’s going to stop BB now!!

    Hugs from Iowa.


  7. Laura Hitchcock
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:50:26

    Oh, such a brilliant chunk of *happy* you have written.
    Shes’ amazing that girl of yours, yes? x


  8. Suburban Mum
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:51:28

    Absolutely amazing.


  9. Saskia
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 19:51:41

    She’s such a brave little fighter! Love reading your blog and see how your little one doesn’t let anything stop her! Her siblings and parents must be so proud of her 🙂


  10. Alex
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:14:38

    I love this post, reminds us why children are so wonderful, we could learn so much from the way they see the world! What a trooper. x


  11. Hayley
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:16:45

    Oh she is just so adorable!


  12. plus2point4
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:21:56

    Trully awesome little lady you got there Jane 😀


  13. HELEN
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:27:42

    ahh bless her, she is such a little trooper, nothing phases her does it. x


  14. scribblingmum
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:56:12

    This made me do a big smile 🙂


  15. Emma (@mummymummymum)
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 21:18:41

    Awww, Jane, that is amazing! Go BB. xx


  16. maggy, red ted art
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 21:24:06

    Your little girl is BEAUTIFUL! And growing up so fast! Amazing how kids just “get on with it”!

    M xx


  17. PhotoPuddle
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 21:45:10

    Aw, what an amazing little girl xxx


  18. Blue Sky
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 21:58:07

    She is so determined to overcome her current challenges – an inspiration 🙂


  19. Notmyyearoff
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 22:00:24

    She is brilliant isn’t she? Really melted my heart there. Might wake my boy for a hug 🙂


  20. Mel (MilkChic Breastfeeding Fashion)
    Mar 13, 2012 @ 22:05:18

    Children are so matter of fact about every new challenge – utterly awe inspiring (and gorgeous with it). Glad she’s exploring new options in mayhem creation already 🙂


  21. Liz Fielding
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 07:20:43

    Wonderful. Very teary here.


  22. Mama and more
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 07:45:49

    What a beautiful post. Shows that children are naturally glass half full, and don’t look at what they don’t have but at what they do. Bless her.


  23. Helen
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 09:32:28

    That made me cry, especially the video, she is beautiful and coping fantastically well. I agree with the other posts, we should learn from our children, they don’t stress, they just take life head on and deal with it.


  24. Linda
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 09:58:39

    Beautiful post. You must be so proud of her, what a star she is.


  25. Mal Roberts
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 10:42:04

    I couldn’t add any more to the posts – they say it all – and how eloquently you describe how she copes with her spica cast and doesn’t in any way allow it to limit her sheer enjoyment of life. just amazing


  26. Kelly Wiffin
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 12:16:35

    Absolutely beautiful! It has made me cry reading this. Your daughter is amazing!


  27. Lisa |
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 13:40:45

    What a beautiful post! And I love the video – what an amazing little girl!


  28. Deliciousnessy
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 16:16:43

    She is amazing. That determination, resolve and her ability to look at things in a positive way are going to take her far in life. Xx


  29. Asturian Diary
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 20:13:58

    What a beautiful, beautiful post and a beautiful, beautiful girl *wipes tear away*


  30. SammyDee
    Mar 15, 2012 @ 15:38:03

    How wonderful! Nothing will ever hold her back for long.


  31. Kerry (@MultipleMummy)
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 18:00:23

    She is unbelievably awesome! What a way to put things into perspective…a little girl who only sees dreams and endless possibilities – she does not define herself by her legs, she know no different really, only how she is going to problem solve getting what she wants. A true star! She has taught me something today. x


  32. sarahmumof3
    Mar 16, 2012 @ 19:57:46

    aww a truly beautiful post and a amazing little girl x


  33. helloitsgemma
    Mar 21, 2012 @ 21:45:38



  34. janeblackmore
    Mar 21, 2012 @ 22:09:40

    sorry gem x


  35. sarsm
    Mar 24, 2012 @ 07:44:47

    What a lovely start to my day (reading this). Thank you for sharing. BB is amazing.


  36. glitterandheels
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 11:11:20

    How amazing! Kids have a lot to teach us adults about perceived barriers. To them it’s just an adventure 🙂


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