I am being made redundant….

Being a BOTTOM* is hard work I’m finding.

Let me talk to you about separation anxiety.  The most agonising thing for a parent to endure as you leave the house and your baby holds our their arms to you and wails sorrowfully as you exit stage right to earn some pennies.

Well this is what I have been told about separation anxiety; I have yet to flipping experience it first hand…

So far BB is yet to even shed a tear as I rush out the door clutching a handbag full of irrelevant items; none of which are needed for a day in the office, that is unless I work with a incontinent, raisin munching, teething workforce.  In fact as I glanced sadly up at the window with a tear in my eye as I slowly climbed onto my ladies bike on friday morning I saw her furiously wave me goodbye whilst her other arm was wrapped tightly around Daddy Daycare.

Through the working day he who helped create them reassures me everyone is coping without me and BB is having marvellous time.

Well how rude is that?

I want disaster stories, I want to hear about how she spent part of the day calling mumma but instead it seems she is too busy working on the exact pronunciation of “I love Daddy best.”
I want to know about how twin boy has missed the loo and created chaos or how twin girl has started a fight with Snow White and Aurora.

So after I spent a year learning how to juggle the house, the kids, the washing, the ironing, why is he who helped create them making it look so bloody easy?

When did my six foot two husband who has a fear of clean things suddenly transform into Mary Poppins?

Every day this week I have returned home to a relatively tidy home with an empty laundry basket and my tea on the table.  It was all I could do last night at dinner to hold myself back and to not race onto to the table, run across it scattering plates and dishes in my dash and wrap my manicured (I am back at work after all) hands round his neck and shake him madly for making my old job look like a walk in the park without the three kids and the dog.

But for the next three days I am denouncing my BOTTOM status.  I am back in my ranch, I am the queen of the castle and god help me I am going to reorganise my troops and play so hard without stopping for a break that everyone will miss fun mummy come Tuesday morning.

C’mon separation anxiety; bring it on…

*BOTTOM: bugger of to the office Mum

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30 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. The iDad
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 09:01:03

    Loved your post, sounds like your partner has been waving the Dad flag high makes a nice change to hearing about the premature waving of the White flag of defeat. My Wife is away this weekend & I am sure she is secretly hoping the chaos becomes too much so she can come back and save the day! Enjoy making them miss you 🙂


  2. Amy Le Pelley
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 09:31:44

    LOL! I know the feeling, I have just got the baby to stop screaming every time I leave her at nursery and now I am a bit worried she might love them more than me!


  3. Blue Sky
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 09:54:25

    That sounds really tough and a lot of pressure on you to make the weekends really special x


  4. PoorParenting
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 10:01:21

    The novelty will wear off soon I’m sure… Otherwise you may have to take to husband beating. Just because.


  5. ali
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 11:46:40

    Look on the bright side. You got your hot cup of tea at work, at least I hope you did !

    Some times I think Dad’s can be really quite organised and much more efficent than us (sorry ladies). Having said that once anything emotional comes in to it you know who they will be calling !!!


  6. Liska
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 13:00:08

    Aaron never cries when I say goodbye to him. Never. I TRY to see it as a good thing, but my heart wrenches. But it is a good thing, because she never ever calls me to say there is a problem. I can genuinely focus 100% on my work while at work. The lady who looks after him is my friend, and I spent a lot of time with her while on mat leave, so Aaron is as close to her as family. So he lets me pass him to her in the morning and just looks at me as I leave. Ironically it doesn’t stop him being MEGA excited to see me in the evening though, and just as he doesn’t cry saying goodbye to me, he also doesn’t cry saying goodbye to her, so touch wood we have a good situation so far (this is all new since 5th April.

    As for him indoors, we regularly have rows about how MUCH he can do WHILE looking after Aaron compared to how LITTLE I can do WHILE looking after Aaron, so I went on strike a few weeks ago and let him cook all the evening meals for a few weeks. Shucks! he did it! Gggggrrrr. We haven’t got on well for a few months…… so it’s part of a bigger picture.

    Thanks for a thought provoking post xxx


    • janeblackmore
      Jun 04, 2011 @ 13:14:11

      Hi Liska,

      Its really hard with little ones to get on full stop!

      Taking my sarcastic head off I am elated that BB loves being with her daddy and I know one day she will realise I have gone out! (hopefully)

      I have friends who struggle with real seperation anxiety and its awful for them so we are def the luckier ones

      Hope all gets better,

      Jane x


  7. Michelle Twin Mum
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 14:54:19

    Don’t worry Jane, things will be back in dissarray very soon. Dh used to stay home on a Tuesday while I was at work and at first bliss – all workign very well. He then got bored of tidying, housework, keeping an eye on the kids. Then you get to work all day, tidy all night – perfect! You do feel VERY needed!

    Mich x


  8. Kizzy
    Jun 04, 2011 @ 20:55:56

    I wish my husband was like that! I hope you have fun this weekend!


  9. Kate Takes 5
    Jun 05, 2011 @ 09:36:44

    Give it time – housedad burnout will be just around the corner.


  10. ChocOrangeCityMum
    Jun 05, 2011 @ 16:31:14

    I don’t know if I am a bit sad for you or think you are bloody lucky to have such a fab hubby. Maybe a bit of both!! I actually like it when my Boy cries when I leave – makes me feel very important and boosts my self esteem – how low have I sunk to get my kicks??


  11. Anna
    Jun 05, 2011 @ 20:16:13

    I had exactly this when I went back to work. I spent months telling The Boyfriend just how difficult it is to get anything done with our sleep-loathing attention-demanding daughter, only for him to greet me after my first day back at work with how they had done the food shopping, the hoovering, The Baby had slept for nearly 5 hours during the day, tea was all prepared and would I like a fresh coffee? I was so pissed off!
    I hope people are right when they say it will wear off cos he’s making me look inadequate!
    Hope your return to work has gone well tho x


  12. Bod for tea
    Jun 05, 2011 @ 23:26:20

    Separation anxiety is in full force over here so perhaps we got your share too my mistake! I can’t leave the house without full-on tantrum and tears. Starting her at nursery is going to be F-U-N. I’m sure you’re missed horribly!


    • janeblackmore
      Jun 06, 2011 @ 07:35:16

      Good luck, it is awful really that i long for my littlest to shed a tear – I am sure if it was other way round I would be keen to have her smile and wave



  13. Alexander Residence
    Jun 06, 2011 @ 19:24:50

    I am with Kate. Novelty wears off. I was a domestic goddess once (ha ha!) Give it time and separation anxiety will kick in too.


  14. Tinuke
    Jun 06, 2011 @ 21:37:06

    Thankfully Princess cried when I started going to work and it made me feel wanted (and considerably guilty at the same time) so didn’t feel too redundant at first. Then came the day when she cried when LEAVING the childminders which I admit stung!


  15. working london mummy
    Jun 07, 2011 @ 08:03:09

    Oh I can tell you my daughter has started crying when I leave for work and it made me feel so incredibly guilty, and so torn. It is hard being a working mum. I have long hours and my husband often works from home so gets to see my daughter a lot more so I am jealous but I guess it is all about fitting work into our family life..


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